June’s challenges

This month is focused on some personal growth tasks

To not wear wigs and hats (excluding fancy dress party) for the whole month to continue raising awareness.

Ask for help in run training and fundraising.

Change the just giving page name to the we can do it so it reflects the support of others.

Changing my name by deed poll back to my maiden name.

Pay for entry into the great north run and the Manchester run.

Moving into my newly built workshop.

4 weeks of gluten and dairy free foods
1st to the 28th of June.

4 weeks of drinking only water
1st to the 28th of June.
The last four days are Luke warm water only (suggested by a mds challenge survivor)

4 craft/sewing jobs – wedding dress, jacket alteration, hat accessories and a tutu.

Get tshirts printed to raise awareness whilst training.

The first of four art and craft sales tables
28th June

Total funds raised so far
http://www.justgiving.com/Vix-Mcbride

Starting ground

This year has been deemed a year to face or fight demons !

I have afew!!

I have been asked many times why now….

what’s it for….

Call it the midlife crisis !
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But everyone questions where they are heading, reflecting mostly on past failures, our internal voices are often the largest destructive force when setting goals, because we do the job of every bully, abuser or negative person we ever met.

Best example – every new year millions of people make often empty promises to themselves to diet or get fit, start well but tell themselves they can’t or won’t, listen to their negative self talk.

I don’t like empty promises, I am a big believer in goal orientation to combat problems.

When I worked in child care we used smart targets in the planning for children. They are an effective tool for any project.

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But all to often goals have been too big, ambiguous and take way too long for any feeling of reward, and I do like a bit of positive reinforcement too.

Odd fact being that most people hear between nine and twenty two negatives for every one positive.

Scary thought but a good case for self advocation.

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A bit sexist as I am very sure men too like to reinvent themselves. I wouldn’t say I am reinventing more redirecting my focus.

But how can we do that?

One way is Nlp (neuro linguistic programming) it is often used in business and therapy and is about refocusing the self talk therefore improving productivity.

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Another is cbt (cognitive behavioural therapy) basically considering you thoughts, feelings and behaviours how these effect the world around you and yourself.

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As time passes ever so quickly, and life has a habit of biting my ass! I find reflection a good tool for moving forward.

Sometimes I take a day or night to just allow my self to refocus.

Blogging helps to do that too…

So I suppose the answer to how is trying lots of methods that work and find what works for u.

It’s a good to add Examination Redirection to the smart target to then make them smarter.

Basically I think it’s important to plan any project and break it down to smaller goals then evaluate and move forward.

So that’s what I have done!

One of the most important things is your network.

In a quest for self development we need to remember testing your self also tests those around, you may discover either your greatest supporter or the negative influences that you need to lose.

So if a person says you’ve changed say thank you because it means they see the progress your making.

And in answer to why now ?

Why not?

I have been considering, reflecting, researching methods and planning on paper what to do and how, spending at least five attempts at the fridge bound spider diagram.

Now

I have a written a monthly plan with time dated goals to achieve bigger goals.

And if I fail at one it’s not failure it’s a chance to evaluate and redirect 😉

Us v them

One of several school meetings today
My understanding is that no matter which school there’s a us v them attitude going on !

So

Trying to understand the logic of senior teachers –

1/ why belittle a parent or child, (if your that desperate for authority and power might I suggest running for local mp?)

2/ If you realise the parent actual knows the system and how it works don’t fob or fake information to appear to know. (find the intelligence to shut your mouth or apologise because a parent/child stops respecting your opinion the moment they hear a lie, learn to believe they also know your lying)

3/ If you don’t understand the law or the changes in the education system please don’t fob off any ‘concerns’ and repeat number one.

4/ if you wish to state that families are your partners then act appropriately, (understand that individualised care is aimed at doing the right things for an individual not a sheep)

5/ Any parent/child with additional need or not should be respected as a person. (They aren’t thick even if that the popular assumption)

That was not a rant, more an observation and a definite problem in understanding as to the behaviour seen in various school environments, it doesn’t however excuse very poor parent or child behaviours either.

Maybe if parents and schools really were considered as equals with different roles, the system would be smoother.

Who knows for now it seems schools v schools and schools v parents hasn’t changed no matter what the government dictate this week….

And apparently no one understands the new ehc format !!!

Looking forward to a day if training on it next week!

Hair yesterday and none today!

So the day finally came….

No backing out!

I washed and groomed my hair to ensure it was in the best condition possible, then separated it into pigtails and plaited it up ready for the final count down 🙂

I put ribbon bows on the top because well why not !
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It will be the last time in a while I’ll be dressing my hair 😉

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Then set off too the festivities at Stealth black belt academy for the annual queens birthday party, during which we where treated to a fantastic display by the little dragons some even receiving their black belts !

With the most amazing buffet provided by all the families who go to the academy.

Followed by a mini tournament run by the junior black belts and featuring two of my kids.

It was brilliantly run and such a great effort by such a great bunch of role models for the club.

After a long afternoon it was my turn to have my head shaved.

I didn’t need to be stressed as the whole afternoon everyone especially the many stealth mums, had pretty much been on tender hooks on my behalf, I really did feel for them.

Weirdly enough I wasn’t nervous or stressed out just ready for it to happen.

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So after a big hug from good friends
It was time to get started!

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First up my pigtails were auctioned to five business owners who pledged fifty pounds each to cut them off !

So the fun began!

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The sixth pigtail I promised my son could cut off as he needed to feel a little involved !

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He seemed to take an awful lot of pleasure in it :/

Words have been had hopefully it’s a one time thing !

Not sure I fancy a phone call to say he massacred some poor girls hair at school !!!

Anyway on to the next part ….

Then it was the turn on the clippers

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All was going well but boy did it take along time !

My youngest daughter was getting quite upset and didn’t like this part at all 😦 (hair and appearance is a big thing for a 14yr old too) but she resolved to get through it and I was very proud of her for it.

When it was over I received a lot of support and praise but Craig stepped in and offered to have his own head shaved and that of his best mate if the crowd raised an extra four hundred pounds between them !

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Guess what they did too !

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A huge thank you goes out to Craig and Paul for being such fabulous good sports and helping to raise that much more!

So proud to be part of the stealth family and so grateful for all their support !

Many thanks to all of those that attended and a huge thank you to everyone who donated !

Anyone who would like to add to the cause please follow the link below.
http://www.justgiving.com/Vix-Mcbride

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May challenges

Now that may has come to an end it’s time to wrap up May fundraising and challenges !

Started a just giving page for arthritis research uk !

And met with the local representative to discuss plans.

Asked stealth black belt academy for support.

Paid for race 4 life entry, and London marathon ballot also applied for a golden bond place for arthritis research uk.

Completed a 4 day juicing detox.

Completed 4 work tasks for donations-3 trousers altered and a doll weighted for a fabulous box of chocolates for the raffle.

Began blogging specifically about the challenges for this !

Shaved off all my hair for awareness and fundraising 🙂

http://www.justgiving.com/Vix-Mcbride